Activities to Improve Eye-to-Eye Connection
(As per Dr. Kondekar’s Structured Connection Protocol)
Eye to eye human to human connection through
Peeka boo
Look through hole
Learn to take selfie
Watch own eyes in mirror
Selfie
video calls
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1️⃣ The Name–Eye Pause
Sit at child’s level.
Call the child’s name softly.
Pause 3 seconds without repeating.
If the child looks — smile warmly and say, “Good looking!”
If no response, gently tap shoulder and repeat once.
๐ Goal: Child connects name → eye → response.
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2️⃣ Snack / Toy Request Pause
Hold the favourite item near your eyes, not near their hands.
Wait 2–3 seconds.
The moment they look at your eyes — give the item with praise.
✨ This builds purposeful eye contact linked to communication.
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3️⃣ Peek-A-Boo with Emotion
Hide behind hands or object.
Show exaggerated smile + expression when you reveal your face.
Slow pace.
Repeat only as long as child enjoys.
๐ญ Emotions stimulate curiosity → eye contact.
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4️⃣ Mirror Time
Sit in front of a mirror together.
Make silly faces: ๐ ๐ ๐ฎ ๐
Pause after each face to allow child to look at your eyes.
๐ช Mirror reduces pressure and increases attention to eyes.
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5️⃣ Bubbles + Waiting
Blow bubbles.
Hold the bubble wand near your eyes and pause.
When child gives eye contact → continue blowing.
๐ซง Builds turn-taking + anticipatory attention.
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6️⃣ Singing With Pauses
Sing familiar rhyme (Twinkle Twinkle / Wheels on the Bus).
Pause at predictable point while looking at child’s eyes.
Example:
“Wheels on the bus go round and …………. (look and wait).”
๐ถ Child learns: Look → communication continues.
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7️⃣ Happy-Sad-Surprised Game
Make expressive faces slowly:
Happy ๐
Sad ๐ข
Angry ๐
Surprised ๐ฎ
Encourage child to notice eyes and expressions.
๐ Emotional learning improves eye focus.
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8️⃣ Rolling Ball Game (Face → Object → Face)
Roll the ball back and forth.
Before rolling, make sure the child looks at your face.
Use short phrases:
๐ฃ “Ready?” … (wait for eye contact) … “Go!”
⚽ Helps eye shift between object and human face — essential skill.
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9️⃣ Story Time With Close Facial Cues
Sit face-to-face.
Use animated voice and slow gestures.
Show pictures only after the child looks at your eyes.
๐ Promotes shared attention.
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๐ Hug-Tickle-Pause Routine
Play gently: tickle-hug / swing-up-down.
STOP unexpectedly
Wait for child’s eye contact → then continue.
๐งฉ Builds expectation → eye contact → reward rhythm.
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General Rules (As per Dr. Kondekar’s Guidance)
✔ Do not force or hold the face.
✔ Keep activities short (2–5 min) but frequent (5–10 times/day).
✔ Use emotion, pause, anticipation and reward.
✔ Focus on connection, not correction.
✔ Eye contact should feel safe, fun, meaningful — never demanded
Daily Routine Summary
Time Activity Type Duration
Morning Name-Eye pauses + snack request 5–7 min
Mid-day Bubbles + songs with pause 5 min
Evening Ball game + mirror faces 7–10 min
Bedtime Story face-to-face + emotional expressions 5 min
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