Friday, June 23, 2023

Ten commandments: Dr Kondekar's Key Principles in Autism Reversal

 Key principles in Autism reversal: 

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Dr Kondekar's ten commandments on Autism reversal: 


1.Dont be Special, turn into social 

2.To make social, switch from object world based teaching to people and action based teaching 

3.To develop communication; switch from screen based learning to body language based learning 

4.To develop language, switch from seeing-doing activities to listening talking activities 

5.Sitting tolerance increases by sitting activities with sensory breaks as per childs requirement. Making a child continuously jump and run will make him expert in jumping and running 

6.Constant hugging kissing and carrying skin to skin, make the child get physically pampered and stubborn. keeping your child 2 feet away face to face helps develop eye contact and social communication

7. If you dont make rules for child behaviour, child will start ruling you and throw tantrums to change your behaviour. 

8.Children copy what they see, hear and feel. Dont let them see ,hear and feel what u dont want them to learn, for example saying no or physically handling the child or shouting to grab attention. 

9.Dont teach letters and alphabets,or what is this type of teaching; they are for picture recognitions. Teach in sentences, it means language. Dont ask questions, just go on narrating. 

10.Music/rhymes is good only for momentary solo pleasure. Switch to lyrics and language if you wish the time to be utilized for learning and communication. 

Dr Kondekars ten commandments on Autism reversal

14 point protocol for weekly update of autism kids follow up

Format for giving information or follow up of your kid across whatsapp to Dr Kondekar

copy paste the following with answers

Name of child

Date of birth


Payment date and time and mode

See weekly symptom monitoring diary at


List changes as per--

Comparing now with two week back.. and send me pl

1. Eye to eye connection--


3-Obeying commands-

4.Response to sounds -

5. Unnecessary Jumping or running -

6.Biting mouthing throwing hitting hurting :



9.pointing, gripping, imitation, Writing -

10.Sounds from mouth-


12. Pretend play, role play, Comprehension and Stories listening skills, sequential

13. Other (sensory issues/ school issues/behaviours)-

14. Mixing with peers in sitting games, group work


List as gains and goals, rather than writing positives or negatives

List any medicine doses changed recently.

List any medicine couldn't be taken with number of days couldn't be taken. Read more at

14 wrongly understood and wrongly used terms in autism

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*14 wrongly understood and wrongly used terms in autism*

In autism


Whenever you visit an expert, u ask a question, expert uses some complicated terms which you take it to heart... Keep googling .  Keep worrying... Keep searching... Asking people.

Remember, there is nothing in a new name, as all of them are core features in spectrum kids and by new name we just add worries. Here is list of few names that i try to resolve in simple ways.

1. Genetic : it just means that there is a rare probability of recurrence in next child or having taken from any or both parents.



2. epigenetic: it means genes are normal, and some unknown cause may be there.


3. lets find out why this happened by EEG MRI TESTS: truly speaking none of these help in management unless child has fits or any other issue than autism.


4. SPD: it just means child is not able to receive your signals or process them


5. Sensory issues: means child basic and common sense is affected and thastwhy various non-sense issues are happening. Vision and listening are two prime senses for learning. 95% of learning is only through these two.  Only 5 % or less learning is through other senses like touch, proprioception etc . Sadly many therapists spend time only on these 5% neglecting 95%


6. Apraxia: it just means child may know but cannot perform, doesn't add any more to the care plan


7. Slow learner: it just should mean that child has potential to improve speed


6. visual learner: it means we experts are neglecting the listening sense and have taken for granted that he will never use ears. Every autism kid has a right to learn from ears and experts should work for it


7. Special kid: all kids are special, we need to make them social. By special it means special needs are there for development of the kid.


8. Hyperlexia: it just means that beyond some basic reading, writing skills , other skills are lacking, and should not be neglected


9. high functioning: this term is given up. It just means that in only some part of knowledge or a thread of a subject, the connections are intact and coordinating in brain and rest is not helping much. It doesn't mean a child is super boy.


10. Low tone: it's normal to have low tone in autism kids. Low tone kids often sit in W fashion. Tone can be best managed by  exercises like statue, sitting properly, hands folded, finger on mouth etc to maintain tone in static  Posture.   Often experts confuse and make parents get confused tone as power. Tone and power are 2 different things. Tone adds to stability, power adds to strength of muscles. Here is what is biggest mistake most parents and experts do. To increase tone, they give physical exercises which helps in increasing strength, not stability. Yoga helps in tone and stability and not strength. We can not build intellectual and social development by increasing physical activities. We need physical stability for learning and posture of attention is needed for learning.


11. Hyper / behaviour : often parents and many experts take this wrong and may call same. To make it simple, hyper means unnecessary and unusual  increased physical movements that may be due to and may cause both inattention and distractability.

Behaviour is just child's response to a given environment/ stimulus/person, the way the child may sense on his or her own as per level of understanding and iq. Immature brains give excited behaviour of global loud response, partly mature brains learn to trick and show manipulating behaviour. Fully mature and cultured and disciplined Brains will show disciplined behaviour. Unusual and unnecessary physical activity if neglected, will eventually get physically restrained by parents or other people which will make one person being needed all the time for holding the child ( thus making a jail for child and jail for jailor too) or is handled by physical means by hitting hurting punishing, if not by parents but any one around, which will strike aggression and violent behaviour. This is best tackled by medicines. Behaviour therapy and counselling was first line therapy for this 25 years ago. In present Century, medicines is key and first line care and cure for these issues.


12. No cure, nothing can be done, hopes are miniscule: it just means the person you are dealing with is not optimistic. The person has not seen these kids developing and actually improving for the enablement of schooling and independent daily leaving or independent survival.


13. Inclusive or mainstreaming: it's often used restricted in the context of schooling only. Remember, schooling is not the only important thing in life. What is most important is to have the child as inclusive or mainstream member of the family. Mainstreaming of behaviour and communication along with relationship development for family structure  is most important than mainstreaming or inclusive ness of education. There is no point in teaching academics - numbers and letters if we are not helping the child to be a cultured, mannered and disciplined family member.


14. Mild moderate severe autism: remember this terminology is given up in 2013. Now we use the term 

level 1 independent autism, often doesn't reach dr

 level 2 dependent autism, can perform day to day basic living, often needs therapies and meds

 level 3 fully dependent autism, often needs institutional care

Now practically speaking, any child less than 7 year age is actually partly dependent, whether autism or not. So it doesn't matter what we call as and pacify ourselves. What is most imp to know that, these scores are based on how one answers questions and how the expert interprets it. What a parent should remember is that what ever it is... The ground rule is severity or dependency can be changed with medicines and therapies towards enablement and mainstreaming. So what a parent should better remember is

 what the child is doing what the child is not supposed to do?

What better child can do what we want to do?

How early we can plan, and how we can plan small goals towards next step of age appropriate development.


Friday, June 16, 2023

autism: Free help for parents of kids with speech and behaviour issues.

 Autism and hyperactivity at times go hand in hand adding difficulty in learning .

In autism child is not able to SENSE the environment and hence sensory issues start coming. Once put the sense in order, all of them shall disappear.

Untreated SENSE, may turn a child cognitively weak and at times adding many neuropsychiatry morbidities like anxiety, fear, depression, hitting hurting, stubbornness, behaviour and sleep issues.

In ADHD, Sense may be normal, but there is unusual unwanted increased physical activity due to inpulsiveness, distractibility and lack of focus. When we tackle these three, kids with ADHD  will be sitting and attending.

Untreated hyperness will eventually be managed by people as physical restrain. More the physical restrain or pampering, more will be likely hood of violent behaviour and or other conduct disorders like lying stealing etc.

It's the job of neurodevelopmental pediatrician to quickly pick these issues and start with early intervention in the form of:

1.counseling: the parents and at times kids to under stand the need of 

2. early intervention: doing something earliest to make the child learnable and improve understanding and vocabulary with

3. treatments and therapies as needed and accordingly

4. Chalking out a plan for further management and periodic modifications to add speed and plan the next level.

Remember, if a goal is not planned and revised monthly, we are not working towards a goal 

Any delay will turn into deficit sustaining longer.

Any unwanted thing permitted and promoted with persist.


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